»  Letter: Tuesday, February 23, 1993

    E.A. Derbyshire to Lynette Derbyshire

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From
Mrs J.R. Derbyshire
Liston House
105 Boughton Green Rd
Kingsthorpe
Northampton  NN2. 7SU

To
Lynette Rose Derbyshire
15 Chestnut Street
Huntington
NY 11743   U.S.A.

Feb 23rd 1993

My darling Rose,

Thank you for your sweet card and letter, I do understand how you feel dear, you are going through Post-Natal Depression, it is not surprizing after all you've gone through. Your experience of birth was very unfortunate & traumatic for you & should not have been allowed. However, try & put it behind you love, now you are too much on your own, too many hours but believe me Rosie, these feelings will pass  Try & give it 2-3 more months & Eleanor will get more interesting & will be able to go on to a better feeding routine. Try not to worry about breast feeding dear as long as she is getting nourishment she won't come to any harm. I know the lack of sleep doesn't help either. A baby brings so many changes in your life. I just wish you had some more young mothers near you. Could you not confide in this motherly lady[1] who has helped you & have you taked to John how you feel. Don't even think of other children at this point. I feel so helpless Rosie. I don't want to add to your worries only wish I could help. Warmer days are coming & this dreary winter will be over. Please dera, don't worry about being unable to go out to work. Think of the pros & cons, the city will be overcrowded & you wouldn't be any better off I'm sure in the end. It's not easy doing a job & caring for a baby, home, etc., The skills you have will wait & time passes so quickly. There is great unemployment here Rose & the crime rate is worse than ever. I know what an expensive time it is for you, I so wish I could help you. John is not to send me money. I'd give you some if I could. It's a pity really you couldn't have had the baby here but she'll soon grow & hopefully things will ease for you  I do hope so. Take care of yourself. John loves you both very much it will worry him so if he thinks you are unhappy. I so wish you were nearer  don't worry about me dear, I'm fine & think of you constantly. You are not selfish Rose, far from it, you are a capable & loving wife & mother, so cheer up my love. Write to me any time

love you

Love & cuddles to her!

X X X   Mum   X X X

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  1. Pat Finley at 21 Chestnut Street, who was indeed a great help to us in raising both our kids.